RELATIONSHIP : The 10 laws of dating for men

When a man is dating a woman, it is usually all
about impressing her. Women also feel
inclined to put their best foot forward, but
often, the onus is on the man. Quite often,
women are a mystery. One woman’s food is
often another woman’s poison. A man is never
really sure what women go for - what one
likes, another may detest.

But there are some
universal dating laws that would hold true for
most women. Read on.

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1. Smile
An open, friendly smile says a lot about you. It
can be a good indication that you feel good
about yourself and that reflects in your
expression. It can be contagious and make
your date feel like smiling too, which can only
be a good thing. If you’ve been told you have
a cheeky grin, don’t hesitate to flash it.
Sometimes a tentative one works too, women
often like that shy, little-boy look, and it makes
them feel very protective! And don’t forget, if
you’ve got dimples, let them show!

2. Pay her a compliment
When you are dating a woman, you can be
sure that she has taken considerable trouble
over her appearance. Let her know you’ve
noticed. Compliment her on the attractive
dress she’s wearing or just tell her how good
she looks. Exclamations that sound genuine
include "wow" or "amazing" or a simple "you
look fantastic". As you get to know her better,
make the compliments less superficial and
more intense. For instance, if you realize she’s
knowledgeable about art or is a great cook, tell
her "I love that about you" but don’t be
phony. Make sure whatever you compliment
her on, it’s legitimate and you mean it.

3. Don't boast about your conquests
The worst thing you could do is to brag about
your skills as a Casanova. Even if you are, she
doesn’t really want to hear about it. It will
only serve to make her feel like one in a long
list of exploits. That’s not what you’re aiming
for. One of the biggest turnoffs can be to have
to sit through the boring monologue of a
braggadocio and having to stroke his already
considerable ego.

4. Don't run down your ex
And this is the next worst thing you could do.
What you’re saying about your ex won’t
matter as much as what is being conveyed
about you. That you cannot master your
emotions and handle a break-up is one thing.
But the bitterness that spills out does not set
the right note and will cause considerable
discomfort to your date. Also consider her
feelings. She will realize that if things don’t
work out, one day, you will be talking the
same way about her to another woman. And if
there’s one thing women hate, it’s to be
discussed in a negative light with another
woman, however unknown. It will hardly make
her empathetic.

5. Personal hygiene is very important
Your date will really appreciate it if you make
the effort to look neat and smell good. A
woman adores a man who smells divine. It will
in all probability encourage her to lean in, and
use any excuse to get closer to you. Just so
she can get a whiff of your sexy aftershave.
Pay attention to your grooming and your
appearance too. A well turned-out guy is a
visual pleasure and you will find her eyes
staying on you in genuine appreciation.
6. Be a good listener
Don’t feel like you have to talk all the time to
keep the conversation flowing. If you think
she’s hesitant or not an equal participant in
the conversation, draw her out. Ask about her
interests and work, what she does in her
leisure time – general topics which she will
feel free to open up about. It takes a skilled
conversationalist to avoid awkward silences
and yet manage to steer the conversation back
to your date. If she’s happy to talk, be an
attentive listener and store relevant details for
future reference. She’s sure to be touched that
you remembered such apparently trivial
details and made a note of them.

7. Make her laugh
Use humor to charm her. That doesn’t mean
you have to have her cracking up for a better
part of the evening. But if a woman spends her
date with you truly enjoying herself, she’s
certain to let her guard down enough to let
you get to know her better. And she’s
definitely going to be up for more dates in the
future.

8. Display good manners
Treat the lady well. There is something
charming about a man who respects a lady
and isn’t afraid to show it. Don’t make the
mistake of using foul language or cracking
smutty jokes. It rarely serves any purpose
other than to indicate your lack of maturity. At
the same time, don’t bow and scrape too
much and hang around like a puppy dog
that’s too eager to please. Keep your self-
respect intact.

9. Don’t be pushy
The key is subtlety. Don’t push her for
anything more than she is ready to reveal or
to give. Also, don’t be aggressive and insist on
getting her another drink, paying the entire bill
or having coffee at your place. Give her the
liberty of making her own decisions and while
you may like to foot the entire bill, if she isn’t
comfortable with it, don’t be boorish and
persist. And just because she lets you buy her
dinner, don’t expect sex as a natural outcome
of it. In fact, the golden rule is not to have too
many expectations at all, especially of the first
few dates. Give her space, don’t crowd her
and pursue her too much.

10. Be honest
Or at least as honest as you can afford to be.
Act as naturally as you can and don’t pretend
to be anything you’re not. It will be hard to
always keep up appearances and eventually
your true colors will show. The more at ease
you are, the more comfortable she will feel
with you, and that’s the best guarantee you
have that she will want to see you again.